Would you change yourself to please someone? Obviously when you partner with a person, some amount of change will come about. Instead of being only responsible for your own wishes, you have to compromise when you become a couple. Certain things will change. Be it reckless spending, that you were previously able to do without anyone to answer to, but now as a couple money may have to be managed more appropriately, especially if you have moved into a new home. Or maybe shameless flirting, after a few drinks on a Friday night. You may have habits, that your partner finds annoying, and vice versa, so you attempt to rectify them to keep harmony. But really, how much change would you make, in order to please the one you love?
As teenagers, most of us have all at some point, changed our ways in order to attract the attention of a prospective crush. Is it worth it? As the quote above points out, you’re basically lying about who you really are. Is it worth losing yourself for the sake of another? I’ve known many friends who have done this. They go on to marry the person, and spend the rest of their lives miserable, having been molded into something they are not. If you are not happy with who you are, then change for yourself, not for others.
Have any of you done this? I know I have, and it will never happen again. I am who I am, and if you don’t like it, then that’s up to you 🙂