I find it hard to believe that someone would stay with a cheater. Yes you may love them or you’re doing it for the kids sake. Perhaps their descent into depression over what they have done is pulling on your heart strings. Stop! What the hell do you have to feel guilty about? They cheated on you, destroyed your life and probably your self-esteem. Who cares if everyone hates them and if you leave they will be on their own. This was their mistake if they loved you they wouldn’t have done it in the first place. You can’t keep sweeping things under the carpet. How will they ever learn from their mistakes if you continue to allow them to walk all over you? Did they give a second thought to how you would feel when they jumped into someone else’s bed? No. I don’t know about “once a cheater, always a cheater” I wouldn’t have given them a chance to find out. Neither would I have embraced the fact that everyone deserves a second chance.