As a parent unless you’re lucky enough to have complete angels for children there is always an occasion which requires some sort of punishment be it grounded, confiscated items or no TV. In my house we hold different views on what requires punishment. I’m a little more lenient and things like coming home five minutes after curfew or a little back talk doesn’t warrant punishment in my book, a good talking to will suffice. I also tend to take over and lift whatever ban has been put into place if I disagree which is more often than not and this causes arguments. For me they have to do something really bad to warrant punishment. Am I wrong in this? Do you quarrel over what warrants punishment and who is the one to dish it out in your household?
Gratitude is often a rare occurrence and can cut deeply when not given by those you love. As a parent it’s not often that you receive it and that’s kind of expected but it can still hurt. Younger children are usually the ones who tend to be ungrateful and often this comes into place with things like birthday/Christmas presents. You could have spent a small fortune and yet they say “is that it?” or “I didn’t ask for that.” Unfortunately because of their young age they don’t understand the value of money but it doesn’t take away the disappointment you feel. Teenagers can be just as bad. They compare you to their friends parents and its either “at least their parents let them out late” or “you don’t support me like my friends parents do.” It does hurt when hearing that your child who you’ve bent over backwards for thinks someone else’s parents are better than you but unfortunately when you’re a parent you have to develop a thick skin :)
We all suffer some kind of jealousy at some point but sometimes it can be very frustrating for a person. I know plenty of women who have a jealous partner and while others say you should be glad and that it shows they care about you then they obviously haven’t been on the receiving end of a jealous possessive partner. It can often turn violent and destroy the entire relationship and make the recipient’s life total hell. Why do we behave this way? Surely if you love someone then trust is part of that. Why would you want to make them miserable by your own insecurities? This music video sums it up perfectly how a jealous partner can behave and I also like the song :)
I’ve recently found a love of ebay, well if i’m honest more of an addiction:) My question to all fellow ebay users is this : how do you feel about buying toys/soft toys used from ebay? I’ve done this many times and for several reasons. There are items on there that are no longer available to purchase in most toy shops. For example my daughter loves the TV series In the night garden but all the old toys which I might add, I used to own and am kicking myself right now for getting rid of them! are no longer available to buy. The other reason I use ebay is that my daughter’s birthday is right on top of Christmas so she basically gets a load of stuff at the end of the year and grows out of them quickly. I’m not loaded with cash so that I can buy toys for the sake of it so ebay suits my needs especially since I don’t want to pay £30-40 pound! My mother agrees with me that it’s fine to buy used toys and she even does so herself for when the kids go over to hers. In my opinion if you wipe them over and wash the soft toys once you receive them then it should be fine. Obviously I buy new for her birthday and Christmas but for the rest of the year I don’t see the problem giving her used toys to play with. The old ones, especially Fisher Price toys are way better than today’s versions anyway :)
What are your views?
Most people these days have a Facebook account and even though you have the option to make your profile private more often than not friend requests still find their way to you either through mutual friends or by other means. Who out there accepts friend requests based solely on mutual friends in common? I admit I do but usually after checking out their profile to see what they have in common with me. I’ve been caught out before where a man found me through a very good mutual friend of mine so I didn’t think nothing of it until he piled on the sob story about how he needed a mother for his son and a wife to get him out of the army and into my country. Obviously the block and delete button came into action but it is a common thing to happen and I know many people who have been unfortunate and suffered the same thing.
Lets hear your experiences :)
That one word is a powerful thing. Most people hold a grudge for a short amount of time until their anger has simmered down or an apology has been received. It could be over something really trivial but on occasion it can be devastating. Some people hold grudges for years and it can tear families apart making things difficult for those caught in the middle of it. Some people vow to never speak to that person again and even take it to their grave. Life is so unpredictable and often short. Why do we waste our precious time on grudges? Years down the line we probably think to ourselves how stupid it seems now but can’t quite take that step to make amends or are just too stubborn to do so.
Have you ever held a grudge?
Have you ever walked into a room and forgotten what for? How about being in the middle of something and the door goes and you completely forget your earlier task and move onto something else. Or the classic thing for me is meaning to tell someone something and then completely forgetting what I wanted to say! I’ve done all of these on many occasions and it’s very frustrating. It happens with my writing too. I get an idea and think to myself I need to write it down before I forget and then get distracted and the whole thing goes poof and it can take several days before it returns to me. Why do we do this? You could put it down to age but my kids do it all the time, though usually they forget something after being reminded a thousand times and then remember it when I get to the car!
Anyone else suffer with memory slip? Have you got a funny story attached to it? If so drop it in the comment box :) I’ve caught myself trying to put the butter in the cupboard instead of the fridge once but I think that’s just madness setting in :)